Inspiration

Inspiration can come in any form. Sometimes I become inspired by my oldest daughter. Her attitude towards herself and what others think of her is to be admired. I get inspired listening to my mothers wisdom. Hoping beyond hope to be so knowledgeable. I watch my middle daughter figure me out in a heartbeat and hope to be so in tuned with the people I love. My baby smiles and melts my heart and I am inspired to be better for him. Today I was inspired by someone I was watching on TV. Her name is Betheny Frankel and she is an inspiration.

Of course, I didn't start the day looking to be inspired. I was just going about my routine of cleaning, reading, bills, baby, husband, kids etc. I heard Betheny speaking on TV and began to watch the program. I know of Betheny because I have become addicted to the "Housewives" phenomenon. She was on the New York housewives at one time. Her life took a turn for the better and she married a wonderful man and had a beautiful daughter. Being Betheny and anything but boring, she started her own show called Betheny Ever After. The show is delightful, funny, real, and loving. Betheny always speaks her mind and is always real. A rarity in a world where being real can crucify you. So this is just a little background to lead to where I am going.

This show was the season finale of Betheny Ever After and Betheny is now or was doing a speaking tour. She began by telling these women about Skinny Girl Cocktails, her margarita line. How she fought to get her drink out there. Went to all the major liqueur companies, who of course shot her down. She did not give up. She pushed, made the label, got it in stores and let me tell you it blew up! She never gave up on her product. So many people told her no and she kept going. I began to think how many times have I been told no and let it stand.

Betheny then went on to speak of "Breaking the Chain". She has written a book and in the book she talks about "Breaking the Chain." Don't get bogged down by what other people do or how there actions effect you. Tell you the truth I had a really crappy dad, but he can't be the reason why I don't succeed. Why I am not happy. Betheny says " break the chain". Now, please understand I have a wonderful marriage, I had a successful career, and lovely children. I am not depressed or blaming my life on anyone or anything. But I do have some issues of character, which I can relate back to my crappy dad and his treatment of me.

But today I said, No MORE. There are things and places I want to go. Maybe I should get off my butt and get them for myself. You see, Inspired! Now the trick is to keep the inspiration.  Keep the motivation and pursue my ambitions. If any of you get a chance, watch Betheny Ever After. What an amazing show. She is quite a woman and probably the way we all wish we could be. I say good for you Betheny. You have inspired this little nobody from no where Florida. Maybe someday I will get to meet you and say Thank You.

Date Night

My husband and I were able to go out for a "date night" last night. Let me tell you, it was really needed. I love spending time with my husband. He is my best friend at times, and sometimes my worst. But last night he was delightful. Getting my door for me, telling me how beautiful I am, and staring at me like I am his world. All these things and actions I need. I need them like water. Not because I am insecure, but because I love the way he makes me feel.

He and I spend so much time with day to day life. I am preoccupied with the kids and house. He says I am the house manager. Job promotion I am the manager! He is very preoccupied with work. His job is his life. He is successful and the reason I can stay home and raise our five month old. He is very dedicated and everyone at work loves him. His skills are amazing and he is ever evolving.  My husband is destined for greatness because there is no one like him. Yes, I am proud and yes, I know what I have. I am a very lucky girl.

With that being said,  I am still a woman. I get cranky and frustrated when he doesn't hear me or acknowledge me.  He can be curt and stubborn.  He says no without thinking and sometimes treats me like I am 3 not 34. While these parts of him I can do without, they are part of the whole package. The same focus he deprives me is the 100%  he is giving to work. It is a give and take. I do a lot of soul searching. I work through my frustrations to rationalize, " is it worth the battle or am I being to sensitive." My husband can seem a little high and mighty sometimes, but he is usually right. Please don't think I do not have a voice. I do. You just have to approach my husband differently and with logic. I do love him. I love him a lot.

Maybe you have a hunny like this. One who is all logic, intellect, and strength. Maybe you are one of the lucky ones like me, who only know the sensitive side. I am the only one who knows this side of my husband. I cherish it like gold . So I forgive him a lot and love him a lot and cherish him a lot. I do not excuse the high and mighty behavior though, I know I help him to see the human aspect of life. People are not machines and feelings are not meaningless. That is my role! Do you have an intellect in your house? Is it not hard for them to relate on an emotional level? That is part of my job and probably yours too.

This is why I love date night. Date night helps us reconnect. We remember what it is like to just be US. I get to fall in love with my husband and he gets to pinch my bum and flirt. I remember even though there are times I want to cry because of him, he is the man who adopted my two daughters, who bought me my BMW, and who I wake up to every morning and know I am blessed.

Never forget Date Night. Plan for it. Do not disregard it. Remember your husband and you are important too.